We just put our Christmas decorations up…five days before Christmas! No, we’re not Scrooges and no, this is not typical for us. We were going to have the decorations up three weeks before Christmas, but that week turned out to be more demanding than we expected. (Don’t they all?) We did stick a naked tree in […]
Read MoreI have to admit, I have never decorated the outside of our house or our the yard for Christmas. I’m not against it, and I don’t have anything against those that do. It’s just seems like a lot of work for something you’re going to have to take down in 30 days. Yes – we decorate the inside of […]
Read More“Marriage is for Losers!” This sounds like something some guy in his late teens or early twenties might loudly proclaim at a party with lots of pretty girls and alcohol. It also sounds like something someone might mumble when walking out of divorce court. So why would I say something like this? I’m a big believer in […]
Read MoreDid I marry “the right one?” There can be times in marriage when that question races across your mind like a streaker running across a football field. It can happen when you’re having that same old fight for the umpteenth time. It can happen when the two of you disagree on what’s fun and what’s boring. It […]
Read More“Thank you.” Two simple words that cost us nothing in time or energy, yet they can change the outlook and life of those who hear them. We all love to hear these words. We can all remember life-changing moments when someone sent us a note or looked us in the eye and said, “Thank you.” […]
Read More“I think we better go to the ER.” I could barely hear the words over the voices in my head saying, “This can’t be happening! Not to me! I’m too young! This can’t be a heart attack!” On the way to the ER, I convinced myself that since I wasn’t having the typical heart attack […]
Read MoreThere is an idea related to marriage that is slowly gaining traction in our culture. It is the idea that you can be monogamous maritally, without being exclusive sexually. The term for this is “monogam-ish.” When I first encountered this term, I was doing some web research and it came up in a Google search. My […]
Read MoreIt’s funny how things can take you back. It could be a song, or a smell. It could be a phrase, or a scene from a movie. Whatever it is, you know it when it happens, because you’re suddenly transported back to a better time (hopefully.) Have you ever come across something that took you back […]
Read MoreAttention is like air to our emotional lungs. Without attention, babies fail to thrive. Without attention, children struggle emotionally and scholastically. Without attention, isolated people become loners and sometimes threats to society. Without attention, marriages flame out like cooling fireworks falling to earth. Without attention, the light in a senior’s eyes quickly dims. Every soul […]
Read MoreSmall acts of love and kindness can have a big impact on marriage, but as time goes on, these small acts tend to get lost in the clutter of marriage. They begin to fade like an old pair of jeans. It happened to me, and my wife lovingly brought it to my attention one night as […]
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