Marriage and Family Blog

Find a Reason to Stay Together

December 9, 2014

If you haven’t noticed, I’m a big fan of marriage. I’m like the person who finds a reason to root for their favorite team, even if their team isn’t doing so well. But many of the people who come to my office thinking about divorce can’t find a reason to root for the team. They can’t […]

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Think Before You Post

December 4, 2014

There’s something magical about social media. For instance, it’s magical that no matter where you are, you can post a message and instantly connect with people all over the globe. But there is a part of social media magic that concerns me.

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Little Things Mean A Lot – Spending Time Together

December 2, 2014

Typically, the more time you spend on something the better it gets. This can be true in marriage. Generally, when husbands and wives spend more time together their marriage gets better. But in many marriages, spouses tend to short change their time together. Why is that?

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Has Your Marriage Moved From Breathtaking To Frustrating?

November 25, 2014

I’ve never been to the Grand Canyon, but I’ve talked to people who have and they tell me it’s breathtaking.  They say you’ll stand in awe of the beauty of this masterpiece of creation. Yet if you lived there all your life, the familiarity would probably cause it to seem less  breathtaking.  You would probably […]

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When Marriages Go To War

November 18, 2014

I heard an interview the other day with a doctor who had gone to Syria to take care of children caught in the war there.  The doctor spoke of children and families being torn apart, physically, emotionally and relationally by the on-going war.  There may be times when war is unavoidable, but it’s never good. […]

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Choice

October 8, 2014

Some of the best marriage advice I’ve ever received came from Jerry Garcia of The Grateful Dead. (For those who don’t know, The Grateful Dead is a psychedelic rock band that came to fame in the midst of the drug culture of the 60’s.) In Garcia’s self-titled 1972 solo album, a song entitled “Deal” contained the […]

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The Great Pyramid of Marriage

September 30, 2014

Everyone goes into their wedding ceremony expecting to spend the rest of their life with the person standing next to them. They stand before the minister with heart pounding and knees knocking, believing their marriage will last forever…like the pyramids. But we know this is not always the case. Too many marriages crumble and fall […]

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Marital Climate Change

September 23, 2014

Is climate change affecting your marriage? These days, the subject of climate change is all over the media. Though there are differing opinions on the subject, one thing is for sure. Marital climate change is real.

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Are You Keeping Your Spouse as a Pet?

September 16, 2014

When it comes to marriage, there are some things you just don’t say…that is if you want a long happy life. Things like: “Gee honey, those jeans really do make you look fat.” “I told my dad there were some things you really could learn from him.” “I don’t think your cooking will be ever […]

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It Isn’t My Anniversary, Is It?

September 9, 2014

It’s the thing sitcoms are made of. Out of the blue, your spouse approaches you with a gift, a big hug, and an “I love you!” Hesitantly you say, Thank you,” all the while wondering, “It isn’t my anniversary, is it?” Even if this has never happened to you, I bet you can imagine it. […]

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