Marriage

Dissatisfaction in Marriage

March 3, 2015

To be married is to know dissatisfaction. That statement will probably get me in trouble, but it’s true. You can’t live with someone who is different than you and not experience some dissatisfaction. Your spouse won’t make the same decisions you would make. They will correct you at times. Their priorities will be different than […]

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Remember Why You’re Married

February 24, 2015

Unless you’re a newlywed, you know how easy it is to let the demands, stresses, and frustrations of life crowd out the things that brought you together in the first place. It’s subtle at first, but eventually these things can take a marriage to dull distance at best and disappointing finality at worst. But there’s something […]

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The Valentines Day That Never Was

February 17, 2015

Valentines Day is over. But for my wife and me, it it was the Valentines Day that never was. More on that in a minute. Reactions to Valentines day can be mixed and varied. Some look forward to the special attention. Some dread the pressure of trying to come up with something special. Some look forward […]

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Little Things

February 10, 2015

Every so often, I run a post on Normal Marriage that starts with these words…”Little things mean a lot.” I do this because it’s really easy to focus on the big things in marriage (communication, conflict, sex, etc.) and forget that the little things are just as important…if not more so.

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Schedule Times for Sex

February 3, 2015

Two weeks ago we talked about making an appointment to spend time with your spouse. Last week we talked about scheduling dates with your spouse. This week we talk about scheduling times for sex with your spouse. Now I am not talking about making sex as mundane or routine as taking out the trash every Tuesday night. I’m […]

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Make an Appointment to Date Your Spouse

January 27, 2015

In my last Normal Marriage post, I said I would follow it up with a post on why spouses should make an appointment for sex. I’m pushing that post back one week so we can first talk about the need to make an appointment to date your spouse. When you and your spouse first met, date night was […]

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Make an Appointment

January 20, 2015

Is your marriage crazy busy? Even if it’s not, you need to make an appointment to spend time with your spouse and family. The other day, my eight-year-old granddaughter called me at work. When I answered the phone, I heard her bright and chipper voice say, “Hello Poppy!” After I said hello back, she got straight to […]

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User Friendly Spouse?

January 13, 2015

I’m an Apple Computer guy. From my very first MacBook years ago, I’ve been smitten with Apple products. Why? Basically because I find them to be very user friendly. You may not care what brand of computer you use. You may not even care about computers in general, but if you’re married you do need […]

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The Windshield and the Rearview Mirror

January 8, 2015

Every life has both a windshield and a rearview mirror. That may sound too philosophical and cause some of you to stop reading, but it’s true. In every life, there’s a windshield and a rearview mirror. The way ahead and the wake behind.

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Small Changes Can Have A Big Impact

January 6, 2015

What if a better marriage didn’t demand a major over-haul? What if you could have a better marriage by making small changes? I believe that small changes can have a big impact in marriage. Think about it this way…if a plane leaving L.A. for N.Y changes it’s course by just a degree or two, it will […]

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