Marriage

Night Owls, Morning Glories, and Minding the Gap

September 24, 2019

  I’m a morning glory. Apart from the bed-head and stiff joints, mornings are the best part of my day. In the morning, I’m rested, my mind is clear, things are quiet, and I can get my most productive work and planning done. My wife, on the other hand, is a night owl. The nighttime […]

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What if Marriage Were Simpler?

September 17, 2019

  Marriage starts off so simple. There’s you, your spouse, a place to live, a job to go to, and free time together. But as time goes on, marriage gets more complicated.  Kids come along. Bills increase. Your job gets more demanding. Your kids get more demanding. The house gets bigger. There’s more upkeep. Your […]

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The Crowded Marriage.

September 10, 2019

Let’s start by stating the obvious…it’s been a little over 8 months since I have posted to Normal Marriage. I realized this when, on a trip back home, I ran into a niece who asked me if I had kicked her off my Normal Marriage mailing list, because she hadn’t gotten a new post in […]

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Is Your Marriage on the Calendar?

January 1, 2019

It’s New Year’s Day (2019) and this is a picture of our new calendar. I know, it’s old-school, but, every Christmas I create a new calendar featuring pictures of my grandchildren. I saw it this morning, and I started thinking about how much calendars are a part of our lives. They are in our phones […]

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The Jagged Journey of Markets and Marriage.

December 13, 2018

The Stock Market is not for the faint of heart, because it’s not a smooth ride. It’s a jagged journey of ups and downs. Likewise, marriage is not for the faint of heart, because it also is a jagged journey of ups and downs. We all want our marriage to continually and consistently get better […]

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Happy Thanksgiving!

November 22, 2018

Just a brief reminder on this Thanksgiving Day that giving thanks should be more than just a day on the calendar. It should be the practice of our life and marriage. It’s true that some people seem more naturally thankful than others, but giving thanks is something at which you can practice and get better. […]

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How Indifference Can Wreck a Dream and a Marriage

November 5, 2018

A Disturbing Dream The other night I had a disturbing dream. I don’t have many disturbing dreams, but this one shook me to my core. In my dream, my wife and I were separate…and she initiated it! She seemed to have little interest in being around me, and asked me not to contact her. Her […]

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Things You Need to Know Before You Get Married…or Divorced

September 12, 2018

“I wish I had known this before I got married.” I hear this a lot as a counselor. Sometimes it’s said in jest, and sometimes it’s said in frustration. Before we get married, we think we know what it takes to have a good marriage. It’s only after we’re married that we begin to find out […]

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The Steps to a Great Marriage

August 31, 2018

The steps to a great marriage. You see a lot of titles like this if you spend any time on social media. Everyone is giving you three steps to this and four steps to that. In fact, the experts tell social media writers that these are the types of headlines that get the most clicks. […]

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How To Stay Together When Others Are Coming Apart

August 5, 2018

As a Teaching and Counseling Pastor, I come across marriages of all shapes, sizes, ages, and stages. There are those in the very beginning of their marriage. They have no kids, all the time in the world, and life is just one long extended date. But then there are those who’s marriage is down the […]

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