My spouse and I differ in a lot of ways, but there’s one very big difference between us. It’s not related to money, or sex, or kids, or in-laws. It’s much more serious. It’s about super hero movies vs Hallmark movies. This difference has been there from the day we got married, and it produces groans and […]
Read MoreEver notice the difference between the dating couples from the married couples in a restaurant? The dating couples are animated. They’re looking at each other, leaning into the conversation, laughing, asking questions, and telling stories.
Read MoreRemember when your marriage was young? Remember the fun, the anticipation, the magic? Does your marriage still feel magical or has it become more mechanical? If your marriage seems more mechanical than magical, there are three keys to getting the magic back. I found them in a Steve Carrell movie called “The Incredible Burt Wonderstone.”
Read More“What happened to the person I married?” “Where did that person go?” “I want that person back.” This is not the person I thought I was marrying.” “This isn’t the spouse I wanted!” Most people who have been married for any length of time have thought these things, even if they weren’t brave enough to […]
Read MoreWe never really outgrow the desire to be liked by others. We can be a grown adult with children and grandchildren, and still be concerned about whether people like us. We don’t approach people and ask, “Do you like me?” That’s way too elementary school. Instead, we look for affirmation in other ways…
Read MoreIn the last post, we talked about what it means to have a “normal marriage.” Here’s a quick recap: Everyone’s marriage is “normal”…for them. There are parts of “normal” that work and should be kept. There are parts of “normal” that don’t work and should be tweaked. The key to making your normal marriage good is figuring out […]
Read MoreWhen I started this blog, I didn’t really explain what I meant by the term “normal marriage.” I just jumped right into talking about marriage and never really addressed it. In this post, let me correct that oversight and talk about what it means to have a “normal marriage.” When you say the words “normal marriage” […]
Read MoreVerbs are action words that gives life to a sentence. Think of the sentence, “Dick and Jane played.” If you take away the verb, all you have is “Dick and Jane.” Without the verb, it’s boring and goes no where. The same is true of marriage. The right verbs breathe life into a marriage.
Read MoreDo you and your spouse sit together? I’m talking about sitting close together. Do you sit together on the sofa? Do you sit together when you’re out to eat? Do you sit together when you’re visiting friends? One of the laws of attraction has to do with proximity.
Read MorePossessive pronouns are general words that replace nouns and denote ownership. (Feel like you’re back in school?) They are words like: yours, mine ours, etc. These words are very important to us. Toddlers grab toys and say, “Mine!” Children brag about something of theirs being better than someone else’s. And most teenagers will sooner or later […]
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