Parenting is supposed to be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life. It’s supposed to bring spouses together. But without care and attention, just the opposite can happen. If you’re not careful, parenting can take a toll on your partnering. LOSING YOUR PLAYMATE When spouses come to me with problems in their […]
Read MoreWhen you go to have your eyes checked, the first thing they do is determine your focus. They want to know what you’re able to focus on and what you’re not. Just like your eyes, the health of your marriage has a lot to do with your focus. And just like your eyes, your […]
Read MoreIf you’re dissatisfied with your spouse or your marriage, you’re not alone. As we saw in the last post, it’s not that uncommon. But the big question is, what do you do about it? In this post, we’ll look at what you can do if you’re dissatisfied with your marriage. ARE YOU DOOMED TO […]
Read MoreIf you’ve been married for a while, maybe you’ve had this thought. It’s an unsettling thought that you’ve probably not said out loud, but it’s one you can’t seem to escape. The thought is… “I’m not satisfied with my marriage.” In the last Normal Marriage post, we looked at the tendency for spouses to […]
Read MoreIt comes on slowly. It comes on gradually. But, if you’ve been married for any length of time, I’m guessing you have felt it. The conversations have begun to fall off. The time you spend together in the car or at a restaurant is starting to feel as awkward as a first date. When […]
Read MoreFew things are more devastating or destructive to a marriage than infidelity. It’s worse than the death of a spouse, because when a spouse dies, it’s not intentional, it’s not a betrayal, and you don’t keep running into them or dealing with them. Infidelity… Wrecks a dream. Destroys trust. Fractures a bond. Taints communication. […]
Read MorePerhaps you’ve been there. You and your spouse are “discussing” something when suddenly you realize things are getting heated and going south. If it goes much further, you’ll hit a point of no return and it won’t end well. This is normal in marriage. It happens to everyone from time to time. But how […]
Read MoreThe following parable is suited to many situations in life, but it’s particularly suited to marriage. Once there were three farmers. They each had a field that was not doing well. The demands of growing crops had slowly drawn the life-giving nutrients from the soil until they no longer produced satisfying crops for the […]
Read MoreWhat do you do if you’re having trouble getting over the way your spouse has hurt you? I posed this question in the last post, but I didn’t answer it. Instead, I looked at the various ways spouses hurt one another. I encourage you to go back and read that post, but here’s a […]
Read MoreWe all dream of a marriage where there’s lots of fun, good connection, deep understanding, frequent sex, abundant money, perfect kids, beautiful rainbows, and dancing unicorns. But marriage can be as much a battleground as a playground at times because spouses will hurt each other from time to time. You can’t live with someone, […]
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