Don’t Feel Attracted to Your Spouse? Try These 4 Principles.

January 14, 2021

It seems like attraction should be a key ingredient in marriage. After all, we all want to be attracted to our spouse, and we want our spouse to be attracted to us. But what if that attraction isn’t there? What then? ATTRACTION. Attraction can fluctuate throughout the course of a marriage. It’s strong in the […]

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What to Do if Your Spouse is Not Interested in Sex

December 17, 2020

In the last post, we looked at what can cause your sex drive to run out of gas. We also talked about some things you might be able to do about it. But what do you do if your spouse is the one with little to no sex drive? THE STATISTICS. According to an article […]

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Is Your Sex Drive Running Low?

December 10, 2020

It’s normal in marriage for one spouse to have a lower sex drive than the other. But when one spouse exhibits little to no sex drive, it can be an extremely difficult thing for the marriage. I know marriage is about more than just sex, but sex can be critical to the health of a […]

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Do You Know Your Spouse?

December 3, 2020

  Maybe you read the title of this post and thought, “I don’t need this post. I know my spouse.” I’ve thought the same thing. I’ve been married for over forty years, and I think I’ve got a pretty good handle on knowing my wife. But there are still times when she will say or […]

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Developing a Thankful Attitude in Marriage

November 26, 2020

  We all have things about our spouse we don’t like. Things like… How they leave their shoes lying around. How they make noise when they eat. How they tend to procrastinate. How they go off on rants. How they always/never want sex. How they’re too tight/loose with money. How they’re too introverted/extroverted. How they […]

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It’s Marriage Not Magic!

November 19, 2020

I love a good magic show. As a kid, I would practice for hours learning sleight of hand magic. And now that I’m an adult and know it’s just a series of tricks and illusions, there’s still something about the wonder and the mystery of a magic show that captivates me. Marriage and Magic Whether you […]

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Why Did You Get Married?

November 12, 2020

WHY DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED? When I am counseling couples, I often ask them this question: “Why did you get married?“ The answers vary… I fell in love with them. We had so much in common. I loved spending time with them. We were tired of going home at the end of the date. It […]

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An Easy Way to Spice Up Your Marriage

November 5, 2020

  I don’t know about you, but when I hear the phrase “spice up your marriage,” the first thing that comes to my mind is coming home from work and finding my wife in the kitchen wearing nothing but an apron and a smile. (Sorry…too much information.) Well, let me say before we go any […]

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Priming the Pump

October 29, 2020

THE FEELING Do you feel like you’re starving in your marriage? Maybe you’ve not admitted it to anyone. Perhaps you’ve tried to downplay it, rationalize it, or ignore it. But you feel it. Inside, you’re starving for: Attention. Affection. Time. Support. Appreciation. Acceptance. Encouragement. Etc. Whatever it may be, if you feel like you’re starving […]

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How to Prioritize Partnering Over Parenting

October 22, 2020

  In the last post, we talked about how parenting can take its toll on partnering. If you haven’t read that post, I encourage you to check it out. To quickly summarize…without proper care and attention, children can turn you from playmates to roommates. You can wind up focusing so much on being good parents […]

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