Marriage

Before You Drive Your Marriage Off a Cliff, Drive it Down Memory Lane

January 5, 2020

During my Senior year of High School, I began to talk to a  girl who really had no interest in me. (I mean really!) But the more I talked to her, the more interested I became. So the night of our high school graduation, I asked her to go out after the ceremony. Much to […]

News Flash! Ken and Barbie Aren’t Real!

November 13, 2019

I went to a wedding recently and I was struck by how perfect the bride and groom looked. They appeared to have it all together. Young, good looking, every hair in place, makeup just right, smiling perfectly. They looked just like Ken and Barbie. (Assuming Ken and Barbie are married.) Who wouldn’t want to be […]

When You Fight, Point the Fire Extinguisher in the Right Direction

November 6, 2019

Fred and Alice (not their real names) came into my office because they had been fighting over Fred’s failure to let Alice know when he would be home from work. The fighting was damaging their marriage, so they came in for help in resolving it. By the end of the session, the three of us […]

Take A Stand In Your Marriage.

October 1, 2019

  I was listening to a Willie Nelson CD on the way to work the other day. The CD is entitled “To All The Girls.” (I highly recommend it, if you’re a Willie fan.) There’s a song on that CD called “Walkin’.” It’s about the demise of a marriage. Listen to the words of the […]

Night Owls, Morning Glories, and Minding the Gap

September 24, 2019

  I’m a morning glory. Apart from the bed-head and stiff joints, mornings are the best part of my day. In the morning, I’m rested, my mind is clear, things are quiet, and I can get my most productive work and planning done. My wife, on the other hand, is a night owl. The nighttime […]

What if Marriage Were Simpler?

September 17, 2019

  Marriage starts off so simple. There’s you, your spouse, a place to live, a job to go to, and free time together. But as time goes on, marriage gets more complicated.  Kids come along. Bills increase. Your job gets more demanding. Your kids get more demanding. The house gets bigger. There’s more upkeep. Your […]

The Jagged Journey of Markets and Marriage.

December 13, 2018

The Stock Market is not for the faint of heart, because it’s not a smooth ride. It’s a jagged journey of ups and downs. Likewise, marriage is not for the faint of heart, because it also is a jagged journey of ups and downs. We all want our marriage to continually and consistently get better […]

Happy Thanksgiving!

November 22, 2018

Just a brief reminder on this Thanksgiving Day that giving thanks should be more than just a day on the calendar. It should be the practice of our life and marriage. It’s true that some people seem more naturally thankful than others, but giving thanks is something at which you can practice and get better. […]

How Indifference Can Wreck a Dream and a Marriage

November 5, 2018

A Disturbing Dream The other night I had a disturbing dream. I don’t have many disturbing dreams, but this one shook me to my core. In my dream, my wife and I were separate…and she initiated it! She seemed to have little interest in being around me, and asked me not to contact her. Her […]

The Steps to a Great Marriage

August 31, 2018

The steps to a great marriage. You see a lot of titles like this if you spend any time on social media. Everyone is giving you three steps to this and four steps to that. In fact, the experts tell social media writers that these are the types of headlines that get the most clicks. […]