Let’s cut to the chase. There will be times when we find ourselves attracted to someone other than our spouse. We don’t like to admit it, but it happens. We see someone and do a double-take. We’re with a group of people and find ourselves drawn to someone’s humor, personality, or interests. This is […]
Read More“It’s only for a couple of weeks. Just don’t say anything!” These were the words of caution/threat that my wife delivered to me prior to her parents’ arrival. And she drove those word home as if she was driving a three-inch nail through my forehead. In all fairness, she had good reason to be […]
Read MoreIn the last Normal Marriage Post, we began looking at a topic that can be so problematic in marriage it ranks right up there with sex and communication. The topic was money. In the last post, we looked at the two issues that make money and spending so difficult in marriage: money deficiencies and […]
Read MoreThey say the three hot topics for marriage are sex, money, and communication. We talked about sex in the last post and we’ll put off communication till a later post. (See what I did there?) So, let’s talk about money. At one time or another, every marriage will have problems over money, and how […]
Read MoreSex can easily become an issue in marriage. Here are some of the things spouses tell me in my counseling office… “My spouse wants sex all the time!” “My spouse is just not interested in sex. “ “I’m not sure about some of the things my spouse wants to do sexually.” “My spouse never […]
Read MoreRemember when when you were so in love with your spouse you couldn’t think of anything you wanted to change about them? Does that seem like a long time ago? WHY CAN’T WE SEE OUR DIFFERENCES EARLY ON? In premarital counseling, I try to get couples to see their differences and the problems those […]
Read MoreDoes any of the following sound familiar? That’s not the right way to load the dishwasher. They won’t get clean that way. Why are you going this way? It takes longer and there are more stop lights. Why can’t you put things away when you’re done? That’s not the right way to discipline the kids. […]
Read MoreEveryone feels like quitting sometimes. Stephen King is a prolific writer and probably one of the most well know and successful authors in modern history. Yet, he felt like quitting early on. I read that one night, his wife was taking out the trash and found three crumpled pages covered in cigarette ashes. Out of […]
Read MoreHere’s the story of two couples… Couple #1 It was a Saturday afternoon when some friends of ours called in great distress. They asked if I could come over as soon as possible. I could tell from the voice on the phone that something bad was happening. When I pulled up, one spouse was on […]
Read MoreI’m going to let you in on one of my many failures in marriage. But, I warn you…it’s not pretty! In fact it’s quite embarrassing! (If my wife is reading this, she’s probably pretty nervous at this point.) Here’s the story…
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